I recently realized that I’m not good at asking for help. I genuinely thought I was. As a Coach I am always encouraging people to do so, to reach out to others and get support. And I like to think that I would help anyone and support anyone if they needed it. In fact, it feels good when I can help others.
However, a few weeks ago, I found myself in a situation where I needed to ask for help and was uncomfortable and overwhelmed when good friends helped me out. When I dug deeper I realized that I worried about overstepping the friendship and also about taking too much without giving. I do know that I give a lot to others and that I’m not just a taker but it’s something I need to continually work on in myself.
Does any of this resonate with you?
So, currently when I have these limiting beliefs, I’m asking myself:
- Is this a true statement?
- What are the facts?
- Have I ever helped this person?
- Am I kind?
- If I was telling a friend about my situation and wanting to ask for help, what would they say?
- How do I feel when someone asks me for help and allows me to help them?
Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness
And when we don’t, we lose out on that support adn we also deprive others who would love to do so, of the chance to help us.
WHAT I’M READING:
I’ve read all her books and her latest one is a powerful read, all about exploring our vulnerability.
WHAT I’M LISTENING TO:
I’m late to the game, but I’ve suddenly got into podcasts and I love them. I listen to them when I am out walking or taking the train. A current favorite is Before Breakfast.